- chia seeds
- Jan 14, 2024
- 4 min read
Updated: Jan 17, 2024
Do you constantly feel insecure because you compare your looks to others? Do you feel like you will never be pretty?
Welcome to episode 3 of the blog series, "How to STOP comparing yourself to others."
This episode will help you stop comparing your looks to others and shift your thinking completely.
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Beauty Comparison - "She is so much better looking than me"
I think we've all faced this, we're walking down a hallway/street and we see the most perfect, gorgeous, breathtaking person.
"I wish I could be like her. She is absolutely gorgeous."
"I wish I could have his eyes" Or "I wish I could have her nose"
Like how could we ever compare to her/him?
The thing is we don't have to compare ourselves to them.
Everyone is uniquely beautiful. Beauty is abundant, not scarce.
Think of the 2 most attractive people you've seen or know about.
In this example, I'm just using Total Drama Island custom/real characters (hehe.)
Sofia Dawn
Do they look the same?
No, they both have strikingly different features, but they are still beautiful in their own way.
You see, there is no one singular, strict form of beauty. We are beautiful in our unique way. This shows how if you think someone is beautiful, that doesn't necessarily mean you're ugly.
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Beauty Standards
It may be easy to slip back into comparing our beauty when we don't fit society's beauty standards.
Just remember that these standards are so destructive.
You have unique inner and outer beauty and no set of 'standards' can deviate from that.
Instead of getting society to accept and love you, it's time you take matters into your own hands and accept and love yourself.
This is your life, and nobody can demoralize you just because you don't fit into constrictive 'standards.'
Try this: List 5 features that you find beautiful within yourself
I love my... (smile, eyes, body, fingers, etc)
This is SO helpful, especially on days when you are feeling insecure about yourself. It's an easy starting step to start recognizing your beauty 💐.
Also, loving every part of your appearance is difficult and takes time, but concentrating on the parts of yourself that you love can help propel you further to achieving your goal of loving yourself.
It's kind of like how in life there are some annoying parts, however, there are also beautiful parts.
Focusing on the beautiful parts gives you a whole new positive perspective, and makes you a lot happier.
"Where attention goes, energy flows."
Below are some statements that will help you rewire your beauty comparison thoughts to more helpful and supportive thoughts.
1. Turn your comparison thought into admiration
What specifically do you like about this person's appearance? Is it the way they style their hair? Is it their beautiful eyes?
Identifying this turns your thought from:
"Her hair is so much prettier than mine" to "I admire how fresh and textured her hair looks." 🤩
You can even compliment them out loud and ask questions about how they got their hair like that, and this applies to any feature!
2. "I see the beauty in them and I see it in me."
This phrase is similar to the happiness one, however this time you are specifically focusing on your beauty.
Acknowledging that yes that person is beautiful, but you are too! 💞
3. "3 positive traits that I have are..."
Beauty isn't just in appearance, it's more about your characteristics and personality.
I think in this world, we are often so caught up in our looks that we forget to acknowledge how deep, complex, and beautiful we are on the inside.
Some Logic
You can read this short message out in your head whenever you are struggling with beauty comparison. After all, our mind will stay quiet after it listens to some ✨logic✨.
Hello, mind!
You're probably looking at others right now and comparing your looks to theirs.
And you're probably thinking that you look ugly compared to them.
But here's the thing!
You have no idea what you're looking like at this exact moment.
You could be looking like a literal queen/king right now, and you don't even realize it.
I will guarantee you, that someone may be looking at you right now and thinking that you look absolutely gorgeous.
You may respond to this by saying that you have seen yourself in pictures and you don't look that good.
But, think about the moon, so bright and gorgeous right?
It looks so good in the shimmering night sky.
But in the pictures, it looks really bad and blurry.
This is proof that everything looks prettier in person than in a picture.
Also, in a picture, you only see yourself in a certain position at a certain time.
In real life, you are moving around and you have your personality and energy showcased which makes you 100x more beautiful.
If you can't physically see yourself IRL, then you don't have solid proof that you're ugly.
Lots of Love,
[Insert your name]
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PS: I honestly still struggle with comparing my looks to others sometimes, but after learning these tips and methods, it's gotten a lot better. 💝
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Next episode: How to STOP comparing your characteristics and belongings.
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