Do you feel inferior because you think others are smarter, faster, kinder, etc? Do you compare your belongings to others? Do you feel unworthy if you don't have the trendiest clothes?
Welcome to episode 4 of the blog series, "How to STOP comparing yourself to others."
This episode will help you shift your thinking, and it includes 5 extra tips! This episode also includes examples that will help you apply these methods and tips.
PS. Make sure to check out the other episodes in this series!
Enjoy! 🌻☕
Skill/Characteristic Comparison - ​"She is so much more intelligent than me"
This type of comparison is when you feel inferior to someone based on their "better" skills/characteristics.
Ex. Rory Gilmore is in your class, and the class grades for the finals are being passed around. You accidentally glance at Rory's grade on her desk and see her grade, which is an "A+." You are immediately overcome with jealousy.
"She is so much smarter than me! Ugh, I'm so dumb," you think to yourself, "Her life just seems so perfect."
Things you can say to yourself now: (5 extra new tips!)
Admiration: "Well, I admire her productivity and how organized she is, maybe that's why she always gets high scores, I should probably implement that."
The very fact that you see this special characteristic in people means that you can imagine it in yourself, which means you can achieve that characteristic.
"Would I change places with her though? Sure she has good grades, but I don't have enough evidence to prove that her life is perfect. Plus, there are so many parts of my life that I love."
This technique helps you realize that that person doesn't have a perfect life just because they have this one thing you want. It also helps you recognize the amazing things in your life.
The good thing about this technique is that you can use it in response to any comparison thought.
Comparing yourself to yourself: "Well I got a B+! That is so much better than the C I got last time. I'm so proud of myself 😎"
The only person you should be comparing yourself to is your past self, that's the goal!
This technique will remind you of a time when you succeeded, proving to your mind that you can achieve things and become your best self.
Using that person as inspiration: "Okay well this just shows that my goal is to get an A on the next test, Rory Gilmore will become my inspiration."
Jealousy and comparison is a tell-tale sign that you want that thing that the other person has.
This thought sets a clear vision in your head and helps you manifest whatever desire you're imagining.
Facts: "Sure I got a B+ on this singular test, but that doesn't define my intelligence at all. I am part of the quiz bowl at my school, and I have gotten numerous trivia questions correct, even winning 1st place in a competition."
You can use your previous experiences to disprove your negative perception of yourself, it works!
Valuing your characteristics"She's smart, but I'm creative and funny."
Some characteristics come easy to some people and difficult to others.
This thought shows that you have other amazing characteristics that define you, but that doesn't make you less than others, it just makes you unique!
I know it's corny, but it would be boring if everyone had the same personality.
Belongings Comparison - ​"Her clothes are way prettier than mine."
This type of comparison is when you feel inferior to another person based on their belongings or clothes. It may seem silly, but I know I have also faced this type of comparison.
Ex. You are walking down the street and you see Barbie with the most gorgeous outfit ever. You are immediately overcome with jealousy.
"I wish I had those clothes. I hate my clothes 😔"
Things you can say to yourself in this moment:
Admiration "I admire the style and seamlessness of her clothes.
Using that person as inspiration "This tells me that I want better clothes, I'm going to research what style I like and try to save money to buy it."
"Sure she has nice clothes, but I wouldn't switch my life with her life just because of her clothes. I have no idea what problems she has in her life."
Thanks for reading!
Next episode: Wonder WHY you compare yourself? This post is for you. (Includes other tips + conclusion)
Post date: 1/28 @ 10 AM EST (add to your reminders if you're interested!)
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